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Speculative And Risky - The Way To Go For Your Life

I have friends that are miserable. You probably have friends that are miserable. Perhaps you yourself are miserable. What is causing this misery? What is the path to happiness? Is it staring right at you? Funny enough, the answer is in front of us; we hate our jobs and can’t figure out how to get […]

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Things Today's Culture Is Robbing Us Of

There are many things today’s culture is robbing us of as adults. The other day I was helping my kids get some new clothes, and I thought back to when I was a kid and how if you weren’t wearing a brand name, you weren’t a cool kid. Back in the 90s, Guess Jeans, Cross […]

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Maybe Yes. Maybe No. The Chinese Parable

Parable of the Chinese Farmer Once there was a Chinese farmer who worked his poor farm together with his son and their horse. When the horse ran off one day, neighbors came to say, “How unfortunate for you!” The farmer replied, “Maybe yes, maybe no.” When the horse returned, followed by a herd of wild […]

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Don't Let The Secondary Let You Lose Focus Of The Primary

I’ve been reading a lot of books lately, and one thing I’ve learned is don’t let the secondary let you lose focus of the primary. Reading on the phone doesn’t count. Just doesn’t. I’ve been trying to just get rid of my phone as it’s a complete time suck and focus more on reading. Unfortunately […]

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Finding Your Mirror Is Important, But...

I’ve mentioned before that it’s important to find your mirror. By that I mean it’s important to find those that are similar to you, in terms of your values, interests, goals, etc. But, that being said, it’s good to be well rounded and expose yourself to those that aren’t quiet similar to yourself. Duh, right? […]

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Your Mission Statement

Have you ever written a mission statement before? If not, I highly recommend you do. It’s a great way of prioritizing what your goals are, and more importantly, finding out what you want out of this one life that you have. What do you want for yourself, for your family, for your career? What steps […]

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No Man Is An Island

To be obsessed and passionate about something that can improve your life is great, but take it to the point where it takes over your life, you end up miserable and worn out. This is not where you want to be.

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Don't Be Timid

Life isn’t hard to figure out, I tell anyone that’ll listen. Be kind to yourself, be kind to others. Love yourself, love others. Forgive yourself, forgive others. Follow your passions, and let others do the same. Simple stuff. ….Not really. We’re human, we’re complex and have an amazing ability to turn little things into tornado’s. […]

Read More

Finding The Right Gym For You

Finding the right gym for you can be an adventure all by itself. With so many to choose from, all offering different promotional incentives to you locked in, it can be overwhelming for those that are just starting out. A gym has to fit your lifestyle, so if you have a family, or a job […]

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Check Your Ego At The Door

Those that are successful at every aspect of life check their ego at the door.

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Meal Prepping And Simple Meal Ideas

Meal prepping and simple meal ideas, for many, aren’t that simple, mainly because of the planning that’s involved. Eating healthier actually does take work to make it happen. The biggest obstacle to this is the food preparation that’s required. Most people don’t want to cook every night, and those with families are usually short on […]

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When You Wake Up, Be Like A Wild Animal

When you wake up, be like a wild animal to be achieve your goals. There is no other way.

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What Makes You Feel Alive

What makes you feel alive? What makes you want to help others?

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Following Your Passion In Life Requires Two Things

Following your passion in life requires two things to be done. Unfortunately for most people, they only use one.

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It's Always Worth Losing

It’s always worth losing. Why? Because it’s better than not trying anything at all. Throughout most of my life, I was not a risk taker. I wanted to play it safe. Take the safe road, take the standard payoff, do the standard stuff that everyone else does. Most importantly, I didn’t want to “lose”.  My […]

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You Get The Oxygen Mask First

Take care of yourself first. Seem’s easy doesn’t it? One thing I’ve noticed lately about people in relationships and those with kids especially, is that they neglect to take care of themselves. It all becomes about the kids, nothing more. “They” no longer exist. The person themselves is no longer really a person, they’re now […]

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What No One Else Is Doing

What no one else is doing, and why aren’t they doing it? Here’s an example: A few days ago I was driving to see some family, and I noticed there was a lot of traffic. Cars backed up, but the lane to my right was completely empty. No cars, no cyclists, no sign of an […]

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There Are No Straight Lines In Life

One thing I can guarantee you is that there are no straight lines in life. Recently, I’ve had some major life events happen in my life. Things I didn’t even see coming. No clue they were going to happen. And a few of the events were devastating. Initially, I was in shock. I couldn’t explain […]

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Effort Is Attractive

Effort is attractive. When we think of things that are attractive, we naturally first think about the visual, the appearance of a person or an object. That’s how we’ve evolved. We want the most beautiful possessions (or partner) in life to show off to others. BUT, there is something else that is very attractive. It’s […]

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The Simple Rules Of Life

In life, there are rules that are common throughout history, I call them “the simple rules of life”. On my blog posts I talk a lot about “how I wish these were taught in school”, etc. One thing I really wish was taught at an early age was three basic rules of life to help […]

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Childhood Baggage

Dealing with childhood baggage as an adult can be a debilitating ordeal. The first years of our lives are spent with our parents. We are dependent on them for everything. As we get older and become teenagers, we do everything we can to try and detach ourselves from them and join our new pack, the […]

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Everyone's Success Is An Iceberg. No One Is An Overnight Success

Everyone’s success is an iceberg, but the vast majority of people never ever seem to see this. Instead, they accept what they see in front of them as reality. They don’t see what’s lying underneath and accept that whatever success a person has happened instantly because of luck or some miracle, not realizing it was, […]

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Be Careful Who You're Spending Your Time With

Since we humans are like sponges, you have to be careful who you’re spending your time with. We pick up habits and information wherever we go, from whomever we’re around.

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Porn Is Ruining Your Life In Ways You Don't Know About

It’s been known for a while that porn has been rewiring out brains, creating sexual addiction issues, and in some cases, causing men to no longer be able to perform sexually, and now we learn that porn is ruining your life in ways you don’t know about.

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Every Few Months, It's Time For A Tear Down

Every few months, it’s time for a tear down of your life. Nothing stays the same and succeeds. 

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Don't Waste Your Time With Online Dating

Don’t waste your time with online dating. Repeat that to yourself ten times.

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Stop To Smell The Roses

Do you ever just stop to smell the roses?

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The Silent Communicator

The silent communicator, it’s perhaps something you were never taught about and don’t even think about, but it’s a key part of your communication to the outside world. 

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Owing It To Your Yourself

Owing it to yourself, something that’s important but rarely thought about. We all owe someone something. We owe a rent payment, a car payment, a mortgage payment, phone payment, but what about ourselves? 

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Why Summer Is The Hardest Season To Dress For

Want to know why summer is the hardest season to dress for? 

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Buying New Clothes As You're Losing Weight

When you’re working out, gaining muscle and dropping the fat, you’ll quickly notice that your clothes no longer fit like they use to and you may get stuck buying new clothes as you’re losing weight.

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Why Your Morning Preparation Is So Important To The Rest Of The Day

It’s the morning and you should know why your morning preparation is so important to the rest of the day.

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Your Brain Is A Muscle, It Needs A Daily Workout

Your brain needs a daily workout, along with your muscles, without it it’ll atrophy worse than missing the gym for a day.

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Gianluca Vacchi, The Italian Instagram Lifestyle Star

Gianluca Vacchi, the Italian Instagram lifestyle star is a man that needs no introduction to anyone that’s on social media. If you don’t know who he is, then this post will do a good job of introducing you to him.

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To Achieve Happiness, You Need The Right Kind Of Fuel

To achieve happiness, you need the right kind of fuel. What fuels you? What makes you happy? A desire to help people? Wanting to make more money? Is it the desire to prove people wrong about you? To achieve happiness, you need the right kind of fuel.

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Progress, It's The Key

Progress, it’s the key and is the one thing that is a constant on this planet of ours, no matter how much we try to keep things the same, the universe has other plans.

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Be A Hero To Yourself

Now, I’m not the first person to say “be a hero to yourself”. In fact, many that come after me will say it as well, and it’s phrase that’s worth repeating over and over again to as many people as possible.

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Do You Need A Perfectly Tailored Suit? Yes. Yes You Do.

Have you ever seen a man that wears a poorly fitted suit? It’s horrible.

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The Struggle Is Real - How Often Should A Man Replace A Pair Of Socks?

How Often Should A Man Replace A Pair Of Socks? They’re not something men really think about that often. You put them on your feet, they keep you warm, and that’s that.

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The Number One Way To Change Your Life

Fitness CAN change your life. I just came back from the gym. How do I feel? Like the greatest man alive. Seriously. That’s how I feel right now. Right this second.

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If You Need Inspiring Words, Don't Do It

If you need inspiring words, don’t do it.

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Important Life Tasks That You Should Always Have Pre-Booked

There are important life tasks that you should always have pre-booked. No question. No matter your schedule, these are things that are just a basic part of your personal upkeep.

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A New Year Reset

New Year Resolution, the most broken thing in the history of the world. Many make new year resolutions that that they unfortunately give up on after a few bumps on the road.

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Speculative And Risky – The Way To Go For Your Life

I have friends that are miserable. You probably have friends that are miserable. Perhaps you yourself are miserable. What is causing this misery? What is the path to happiness? Is it staring right at you?

Funny enough, the answer is in front of us; we hate our jobs and can’t figure out how to get out.

Again, funny enough, the way to get out is right in front of us.

We spend most of our time during the day at work. Getting to work, being at work, and then finally leaving work. Most people take their misery from work back home with them, which just creates a circle of never ending misery, not just for them but for their families as well.

Most people know the answer to fixing their problems – their soul is telling them constantly. It’s screaming inside them, but hey just don’t know the path to achieving their goals.

Again, the answer is in front of them; just do it.

The problem is your mind is setting a limitation for you. It’s telling you what you’d be happier doing, but it’s coming up with a billion reason for you to not risk it things because that could end up with disastrous results for you.

The reality is the human brain is great at making things appear harder than they are.

Speculative And Risky – The Way To Go For Your Life

Here’s a simple process to follow: Begin with the end in mind.

What’s your goal? Write it down. Now, begin with the steps you need to take on achieving it.

You have to be very disciplined in your approach. No time wasting, no wavering on things.

Just do it. Take a risk. You have nothing to lose. All the successful people on this planet started the same way. They had an idea and went after it.

Remember, there is no such thing as failure, just attempts and learning, that is not. You cannot fail because it doesn’t exist.

Things Today’s Culture Is Robbing Us Of

There are many things today’s culture is robbing us of as adults. The other day I was helping my kids get some new clothes, and I thought back to when I was a kid and how if you weren’t wearing a brand name, you weren’t a cool kid.

Back in the 90s, Guess Jeans, Cross Colors, Dock Martins, and a few others were the brands you had to be wearing…otherwise, fuhgeddaboudit, as they would say in the mafia movies.

Today, kids have so many more choices, and cheap chic is all the rage. I wish I was growing up today instead of back then. As a kid, this is so much easier when it comes to pear pressure and trying to fit in with your group. I think we sometimes forget what it’s like for teenagers and pre-teens in terms of being part of a group and how they need to fit in. I still see lots of kids just wearing Adidas sweat pants and black sneakers, in a group. I don’t know if they plan it that way but that’s how they all go out in public as.

Things Today’s Culture Is Robbing Us Of

That being said, as an adult, I feel like too many people are taking advantage of this and not taking the time to put in the effort that’s needed to make themselves presentable. Sweatpants, flip flops, and ripped clothing are not things that adults should be wearing.

So many women wear Yoga pants as their daily attire. I get it; it’s comfortable. And let’s be honest, on some women, they look fantastic, but they are yoga pants. Your presentation should be a source of pride. It’s how you non-verbally communicate to the world about who you are and how you value yourself.

Yes – clothes are just that, clothes, but they communicate so much more in terms of our evolutionary psychology. There is nothing shallow about wanting to look good.

So let’s not rob ourselves of wearing nice clothes, smelling nice, and taking pride in our appearance.

Maybe Yes. Maybe No. The Chinese Parable

Parable of the Chinese Farmer
Once there was a Chinese farmer who worked his poor farm together with his son and their horse. When the horse ran off one day, neighbors came to say, “How unfortunate for you!” The farmer replied, “Maybe yes, maybe no.”

When the horse returned, followed by a herd of wild horses, the neighbors gathered around and exclaimed, “What good luck for you!” The farmer stayed calm and replied, “Maybe yes, maybe no.”

While trying to tame one of wild horses, the farmer’s son fell, and broke his leg. He had to rest up and couldn’t help with the farm chores. “How sad for you,” the neighbors cried. “Maybe yes, maybe no,” said the farmer.

Shortly thereafter, a neighboring army threatened the farmer’s village. All the young men in the village were drafted to fight the invaders. Many died. But the farmer’s son had been left out of the fighting because of his broken leg. People said to the farmer, “What a good thing your son couldn’t fight!” “Maybe yes, maybe no,” was all the farmer said.

There are a few different versions of this, but nevertheless, I love this parable, as the meaning behind it is so useful for our lives.

No one event in our lives, whether it’s divorce, a major health crisis, or anything else can truly be defined as fortunate or unfortunate, only time will tell us.

The goal should be to live your life in the moment and make the best of any situation – your life will be much easier.

Don’t Let The Secondary Let You Lose Focus Of The Primary

I’ve been reading a lot of books lately, and one thing I’ve learned is don’t let the secondary let you lose focus of the primary.

Reading on the phone doesn’t count. Just doesn’t. I’ve been trying to just get rid of my phone as it’s a complete time suck and focus more on reading. Unfortunately it’s the main way I keep in touch with clients (I mean, I’m not going to hand write them letters) so I have no choice to keep it around.

One thing I’ve really picked up on as I’ve been reading more books lately about motivation, human nature, following our passions etc is that we often lose focus of the primary because of the secondary. We don’t begin with the end in mind, we begin with whatever we can capture first.

Don’t Let The Secondary Let You Lose Focus Of The Primary

Wanting to get into shape? You immediately think about the women you may start to attract. You want to pursue your passions? You immediately think about the amount of money you might make from it.

These things seem simple enough, but remember that you always had a vision at first, a great idea, something that excited you, and that we have to stay focused so the allure of material things don’t cloud our vision.

Don’t ever let the secondary let you lose focus of the primary, in anything in life.

Finding Your Mirror Is Important, But…

I’ve mentioned before that it’s important to find your mirror. By that I mean it’s important to find those that are similar to you, in terms of your values, interests, goals, etc.

But, that being said, it’s good to be well rounded and expose yourself to those that aren’t quiet similar to yourself. Duh, right? But how many people do you know that actually do this?

It not only gives you different life experiences, but exposes you to the type of lives others lead, and gives you a better understanding on how to deal with different personality types.

I have many friends that are similar to me, but many who aren’t, and some of their who are people that I would never want to be in debt too, but being around them I’ve learned how to stick handle things that may be touchy subjects. More importantly, you quickly learn how to be far more social than you’ve ever been before and how to adapt your way of talking to any situation, making people instantly feel comfortable around you.

So the next time your friends invite you out to a bar or a club, don’t automatically just say “No” because it’s not something you’re no use to. Go. Have fun. Enjoy it and talk to others. There is truly nothing more enriching to the human experience than just being around others and interacting with them. Seriously.

Your Mission Statement

Have you ever written a mission statement before? If not, I highly recommend you do. It’s a great way of prioritizing what your goals are, and more importantly, finding out what you want out of this one life that you have.

What do you want for yourself, for your family, for your career? What steps do you need to take to achieve your goals.

More importantly though, your mission statement should include how you want to live your life. Will it be a life of principals where your main priority is to be kinder to others and to yourself, or will it be a life focused on materials pursuits?

Write down your goals and visual them. Visualization has been used by some of the most successful people on the planet. It truly does help you feel that you are that person you want to be.

Don’t Be Timid

Life isn’t hard to figure out, I tell anyone that’ll listen.

Be kind to yourself, be kind to others. Love yourself, love others. Forgive yourself, forgive others. Follow your passions, and let others do the same. Simple stuff.

….Not really. We’re human, we’re complex and have an amazing ability to turn little things into tornado’s. We focus more on the little battles instead of the war.

One rule all men should follow is this: Don’t be timid.

If you want something, just go after it. What do you have to lose? Truthfully ask yourself that question? Misery comes from not pursuing your passions, not from not getting what you want. Making an attempt is half the battle, and will create a chemical reaction in your brain, making you work harder to stick with it. Once you stop, all those happy brain feeling chemicals stop too. The more you do it, the more happy feelings, and the less you do it, the more misery that comes your way.

Being timid is where your dreams go to die. It’s where a potential great future sinks in the ocean, never to be retrieved.

If your fear is failure, then that’s a silly fear. Nothing progresses without “failure”. The only way things can grow and improve is through failure. Bodybuilders workout until failure, that’s the only way their muscles will grow.

When you were a baby, the only way you learned was through trial and error, or, aka, failure. But it’s not failure, it’s just a progression until you become a master.

I’ve included the launch video of the Falcon Heavy which just launched into space recently. My favorite part is Elon Musk’s Tesla roadster coming into view and floating into space. That wasn’t done by timid people. This was done by people that followed their dreams.

Be like Elon.

Finding The Right Gym For You

Finding the right gym for you can be an adventure all by itself. With so many to choose from, all offering different promotional incentives to you locked in, it can be overwhelming for those that are just starting out.

A gym has to fit your lifestyle, so if you have a family, or a job that has you working or awake at odd times, you’re probably going to want a gym that’s open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Next you’ll obviously want a gym that has the most equipment, but remember, it has to fit your lifestyle.

A gym could be massive with all the equipment in the world, but if it’s not open during the hours you need, forget it. One benefit of gyms that are open 24/7 is that while they aren’t the biggest, they’re usually not super busy either, as people can come and go at any time of the day.

Locations is another big factor. It could be close to your gym, but if they don’t have a location close to your house, then that could be a negative as well.

When Finding The Right Gym For You – Try Many

Finally, try out a few different gyms. Get the free guest passes and use them to the max, get a feel for the type of people that are there, if the gym has what you’re looking for, pricing, etc.

In regards to the type of people at each gym, some of have the big bodybuilders, and some have people that are just in for a workout. Again, see what works best for you in this case. The bodybuilders can be intimidating to some, but for me, I suggest you use them as inspiration. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder, but you can copy their techniques and ask them questions. People at the gym love to help out other people.

Meal Prepping And Simple Meal Ideas

Meal prepping and simple meal ideas, for many, aren’t that simple, mainly because of the planning that’s involved.

Eating healthier actually does take work to make it happen. The biggest obstacle to this is the food preparation that’s required. Most people don’t want to cook every night, and those with families are usually short on time.

More importantly, if you’ve got said family with kids, your kids aren’t going to want to eat the same thing every day. Kids are not wired that way. Add to that your partner not being on bored, and it can certainly be a challenge.

They only solution is to cook a simple meal that’ll last your for four days, lunch and dinner. You can do breakfast as well with prepping some Greek yogurt or high fat yogurt into a container with some almonds and hemp seeds into a separate container.

Meal Prepping And Simple Meal Ideas

 

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Now, as for meal ideas, I always go simple.

    • Marinated Chicken Cooked On The Stove, with a side of sweet potatoes, spinach, and high fat yogurt
    • Baked Chicken, tomatoes, sweet potatoes and avocado
    • Steak stew cooked on the stove, tomatoes, sweet potatoes and avocado

Want something even easier? Throw your favorite ingredients into a slow cooker early in the morning on a Sunday, come back in 8 hours and you’re all done. Put in enough food (and have a large enough slow cooker) and you’re good to go for four days. Bake some sweet potatoes and boil some rice and lentils, and it could not get any easier.

 

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Keep it simple and healthy! Meals do not need to be complicated. Pack a ton of food on a Sunday and you’re work week will be much easier.

It’s Always Worth Losing

It’s always worth losing. Why? Because it’s better than not trying anything at all.

Throughout most of my life, I was not a risk taker. I wanted to play it safe. Take the safe road, take the standard payoff, do the standard stuff that everyone else does. Most importantly, I didn’t want to “lose”. 

My issues were countless:

  • Didn’t want to be looked upon as a failure,
  • Terrified of be embarrassed by something that didn’t go my way,
  • Always felt like I was a loser anyway.

Lack of self-confidence in yourself is a debilitating and horrible thing. 

The reality of it was I was losing. By not taking any risks at all, I was losing out on the life my soul wanted (without me quite realizing it at that point) and opportunity cost of me just staying still was far greater than any bad thing that could have ever happened to me. 

It’s always worth losing as the opportunity cost is far greater

Your soul knows the life you’re destined to lead, but you drown it out with being “practical” about the reality of your situation. Your job, your kids, your parents, etc. There is a weak voice in your head that’s holding you back.

The secret of getting ahead is getting started
– Mark Twain

The biggest regret is not doing. Not going after your dreams, the partner you want, the business you want. If things don’t workout, the pain from it is nowhere near the pain from not even attempting to achieve your goals.

Deep down, we all know our path. We know what we want to do, but getting started is the hardest part. 

Never think of it as losing. Just think of it as living. You’re going after what you want, and sometimes you get positive feedback, and sometimes the feedback from the universe is that you need to keep trying. That you’re not ready quite yet.

When children go to school, they know they know nothing. It’s expected. They’re their to learn. As an adult we are no different. “Not yet”.

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